Reflections and Feedback

“What is the shortest word in the English language that contains the letters: abcdef? Answer: feedback. Don’t forget that feedback is one of the essential elements of good communication.”

I have been blogging weekly for over six months on love, sexuality and intimacy—and it has been quite the adventure. Writing about something so personal has turbo-charged my own healing process—and also—has shown me how far I have come from the very closed-up person I was before I attended my first workshop in 2007 on love, sexuality and intimacy. The six-month-mark presents a good opportunity for reflection and hopefully, to get some feedback from you—my growing base of readers.

When I began blogging, my intention was to share my story in order to help others to heal and to reclaim empowered sexuality—my blogging is not simply an exercise in self-disclosure and self-indulgence. I view my work as an important service that I am providing. From comments I’ve received online, in person or through e-mails, it seems my work is touching some of you. That inspires me to continue!

With that thought in mind, I’d like to ask a few questions and to sincerely ask for your feedback. You may e-mail me separately or write comments in the “comments” section below (even anonymously if you’d like), text me, etc.

  • What subjects do you find most interesting? Challenging cultural norms around women and sexuality? Recovery from the effects of sex abuse? Empowered sexuality? Forgiveness? How to reclaim pleasure? Becoming sex-positive?
  • Does the length of my blogs in general work? Do you find them too long/too short?
  • Are there any particular entries that really touched you? If so, which one(s)?
  • Are there subjects I have not addressed that you’d like to read about?

In general, I will continue writing about love, sexuality and intimacy from the somewhat unusual perspective of being a sex-positive sex abuse survivor. I have found that this is a place of dynamic tension: the sex-positive world is pretty silent on the subject of sex abuse and many sex abuse survivors—even those with plenty of healing under their belts—are suspicious at best about the notion that sex can be any more than something they barely tolerate. Then there is a whole diverse group of people who are disconnected from their sexuality as a result of cultural and religious messaging, poor experiences, lack of sexual awareness/education and so much more. In short, there’s work to be done here, helping people—whether partnered or not—to reconnect with their sexual aliveness.

To all of you who read my blogs, forward them, comment: you have my deepest gratitude. I know your time is valuable and I so much appreciate that you give me the honor of reading, forwarding and commenting on what I write.

The journey continues. Thank you so much for your feedback!